Self worth

 

By the time I get everything figured out I'm gonna be on my way to something new.

Today it dawned on me that people who don't love, or at least like, themselves make poor partners in any situation. If someone does not like themself they are always looking for affirmations. They really care what others think. They are more focused on themselves than me and I am guilty of this too. If I am more worried about looking foolish, or wrong, or bad, I may not make the best choices about how I treat others.

On the other hand, when I am confident and happy with myself, I can focus on being a good role model and caretaker of someone else. I won't be afraid to make the hard or unpopular decision. 

I know this because I have spent a lot of time around people who really didn't love themselves, or found themselves striving to be something they weren't. The fallout from them gave me many false impressions and negative feelings about myself. 

I tried not to pass those on to my children, but it is difficult to be on all the time, especially while living out your own life. The fact that I think I did a reasonably good job with my kids makes me feel better about who I am now. I love it when I see them reacting to their world in positive, kind ways. They are good people, strong people who have a sense of what they are really worth. 

That is a comfort to me on days like this when I am doubting my own worth.