Shrinking life

Life is filled with habits that need to be broken in order to keep living in the light.

What worked beautifully in one part of my life becomes obsolete or less important as time goes on. That goes for both the good things and the problems. I don't need the same things today I needed ten years ago. Life is shrinking and I need to be choosier about what I focus on.

Of course there are constants, but even those can be altered. There is more than one way to meet a need. I need to be creative.

One valuable coping mechanism I have is to focus on the real elephant in the room. The biggest thing here. 

Trying to enliven the conversation with how bad things are is a young person's habit. By my age I know that lots of bad things happen, but they are only part of moment to moment living. If I am honest with myself: in the grand scheme of most days there are more good things going on than bad if I allow myself to notice them.

 I'm working on that. Noticing the good things and keeping the rest in its proper place. That's a harder habit to change than you might think. I need to be relentless.