Discovery

Don't ever let anyone else's life define you.

That should be a no brainer, but it has always been a problem for me. I was born and bred to be a helper, possibly even an enabler. I am the quintessential assistant. I have a natural affinity for figuring out what you want or need and that ability was carefully nurtured as I grew up.

I suppose it is a wicked weapon if I am upset with you, but mostly I use it to make people happy. Did I mention I was also brought up to try and please people, make them happy?

There is nothing wrong with that if it really isn't enabling and it makes me happy.

The trouble is, it hasn't always worked out for the best. I have often found myself living my life in order to make someone else happy, and in the end, that really doesn't work out very well for either of us.

Long term, healthy relationships require us to be responsible for our own happiness. For so many reasons it would take a whole other thot to talk about it!

That's more time and effort than I want to put into such a task right now. I am like a kid in a candy shop, too busy tasting and touching and loving what I'm doing to worry about why.