Cozy is an idea that is amazingly diverse!
I think of an inglenook and one other person. I want to sit in the fire's warm glow and share intensely! There is nothing I love more than two people focused on each other. Each in their own space, but allowing those spaces to intermingle and overlap, perhaps even to run along side by side for a while.
Other folks want more people. They feel the more the merrier and while I have no problem with groups of friends getting together, it loses something for me. Every person added to the mix takes away from the intimacy of a conversation.
If I have plans to get together with you and you suddenly want to bring Aunt Mary, or my favorite cousin, Sam, my mind goes into over drive. Are you afraid you will be bored? Will we really be able to talk about subjects dear to our hearts?
A group mentality means everyone should be included and the time then becomes about the group, not you, or me, or even the subject so much anymore. More than two often means more doing, less simple being and being is my favorite thing in the whole world,; so even when I am with a group I find myself wanting to get off alone with each one of them, spend time listening to what they have to say, find the key that unlocks who they are in that moment.
That's where my cozy comes back into play.
I think of an inglenook and one other person. I want to sit in the fire's warm glow and share intensely! There is nothing I love more than two people focused on each other. Each in their own space, but allowing those spaces to intermingle and overlap, perhaps even to run along side by side for a while.
Other folks want more people. They feel the more the merrier and while I have no problem with groups of friends getting together, it loses something for me. Every person added to the mix takes away from the intimacy of a conversation.
If I have plans to get together with you and you suddenly want to bring Aunt Mary, or my favorite cousin, Sam, my mind goes into over drive. Are you afraid you will be bored? Will we really be able to talk about subjects dear to our hearts?
A group mentality means everyone should be included and the time then becomes about the group, not you, or me, or even the subject so much anymore. More than two often means more doing, less simple being and being is my favorite thing in the whole world,; so even when I am with a group I find myself wanting to get off alone with each one of them, spend time listening to what they have to say, find the key that unlocks who they are in that moment.
That's where my cozy comes back into play.
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