How and when do we teach children that some things should not be discussed -- with anyone!
I have memories of a time shortly after my second birthday, where I remember struggling to dress myself in a new nightgown and feeling very proud. I also have memories of things I thought about then that I already knew I could not ask anyone about.
The list of things we cannot, should not, or better not talk about grows every year. Sometimes it is a matter of taste, or tact, or discretion. Sometimes it is simply fear of the unknown, better to be silent than embarrassed.
Then, if we have enough money, we pay someone to listen to those things and sometimes that helps and sometimes it just reinforces the idea that they are not fit for most company.
The best solution is so obvious, so simple, so rare, so basic and yet it doesn't seem to be particularly common.
The best solution is to have a very good friend you can share everything with. Someone you trust, not just with your life, but your very soul. Someone who is not just your best friend, but your bestest!
There is an incomprehensible comfort in being able to just blurt it all out, to say it exactly the way it feels, not to mince words in any way and know that someone will listen. Not just listen, but stand behind you and hold you up even if you are wrong. Someone who will be there no matter what. That is real security.
That is love.
I have memories of a time shortly after my second birthday, where I remember struggling to dress myself in a new nightgown and feeling very proud. I also have memories of things I thought about then that I already knew I could not ask anyone about.
The list of things we cannot, should not, or better not talk about grows every year. Sometimes it is a matter of taste, or tact, or discretion. Sometimes it is simply fear of the unknown, better to be silent than embarrassed.
Then, if we have enough money, we pay someone to listen to those things and sometimes that helps and sometimes it just reinforces the idea that they are not fit for most company.
The best solution is so obvious, so simple, so rare, so basic and yet it doesn't seem to be particularly common.
The best solution is to have a very good friend you can share everything with. Someone you trust, not just with your life, but your very soul. Someone who is not just your best friend, but your bestest!
There is an incomprehensible comfort in being able to just blurt it all out, to say it exactly the way it feels, not to mince words in any way and know that someone will listen. Not just listen, but stand behind you and hold you up even if you are wrong. Someone who will be there no matter what. That is real security.
That is love.
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