Communication

My way is easy.

I want things done now! And I am perfectly willing to do them myself if that is necessary, or possible.

It is just not always possible. There are things that must be done by other people for a variety of reasons and those people generally have their own sense of timing and priorities.

My challenge, then, is to develope the patience and skills necessary to exist in the same space as these people, without making them, or me, miserable. Communication is the ultimate tool. I am pretty good at stating my needs and I need to encourage those around me to do the same thing. That is not easy if they grew up believing people should anticipate each other's needs, so I keep saying, "You have to tell me what you think, or feel, because otherwise, I really don't know."

I don't think a lot of people believe that, but it is true. Even twins, born one after the other, enter this world to slightly different experiences, so that as the years go by, priorities and needs tend to evolve in different ways for different people. People with the very best of intentions can never hope to get it right all the time for someone else and why should they have to? I may want tacos today, but tomorrow Chinese sounds better. How could anyone know that if I don't tell them?

Clutter drives one person crazy, structure does the same to another. Each of us is a unique individual, but as long as we have the ability and desire to communicate, we'll be okay.