I do not pretend to understand the whys of most things. I do speculate on them and sometimes I hope to influence them, but on the whole, I am doing the best I can just to accept them and move forward.
Of course I don't mean the whys of things like, why does water fall downward, or why do trees lose their leaves, or how is a baby born. I am thinking more of those less concrete things like, why do some people have to endure terrible things that seem beyond their control while others do not.
Sometimes I can see where one's actions may have led them into difficulties, but more often life just seems to pass out difficulties like donuts on a Sunday morning. One person gets the apple fritters, another that pesky little powdered sugar one and still another gets the jelly donut that makes everyone else envious until the jelly spurts out all over his favorite necktie, ruining it.
How I look at these difficulties influences the quality of my own life. I'm not sure I can always make lemonade with lemons, but I do try to put most of my attention on those things I have some control over and focus on the things that are good, or right, or pleasing. The rest I simply learn to live with.
I have had some great role models. My granddaughter has cerebral palsy. It isn't so debilitating that she must be in a wheel chair, but her large motor coordination is not the best, so walking is very tiring and she may never be able to do some of the fine motor things most of us take for granted. Still she copes beautifully and is one of the most cheerful people I know, focusing on what she can do rather than the rest.
That's about the best most of us can hope for.
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