A thousand steps

Human beings are problem solvers.  That is what has made humanity reach the place it is now, but in order to solve problems, they must be identified, which isn't always easy.

Problem solving can slip into blaming and that really only creates more problems. 

The tendency to blame others for our unhappiness comes from frustration and anger, both common human feelings.  So we blame and feel bad. Get angrier and feel worse. And another new cycle begins that just exacerbates an already difficult situation.

At some point the cycle must be broken.

No matter what the problem is, or who is to blame, the past needs to stay in the past.  Take the lessons learned and move into the future with the firm belief that it is possible to do better.

Turning a bad situation into something new and good takes a tremendous amount of work, but that is okay.  The energy it takes to do this can cover up some of the pain until it is farther behind us.

Every step towards a positive approach grows exponentially, so even if it takes a thousand steps, the interim grows brighter and better over time.