Love is work

 

Love isn't just a feeling. It is a choice.

True love isn't just something that feels good to us. It is not doing everything in our power to suck up to someone. It isn't just saying words or doing absolutely anything that will make them smile.

True love is a choice to do the very best we know how for someone. It may be giving them something. It may be taking something away from them. It may be doing nothing and allowing them to grow in some way. It could be a million things.

True love is choosing to empathize and try to understand that person we claim to love. It is seeing the world from their point of view as much as we can. Not becoming them, or copying them. Simply knowing who they really are.

We don't have to agree with them or their lifestyle, but we do have to acknowledge its reality.

Everyone has the right to be loved, but doing that can be the hardest thing we ever do. Just buying stuff for them is easy as is just doing things for them. It is more loving to help them learn to attain their own things, learn to do their own chores, allow them to be happy within themselves.

Love isn't about being needy. It is about growing together in ways that benefit everyone involved. It is about achieving equality where nothing may be the same and yet it becomes cohesive. 

That cohesiveness is the glue that cements relationships and we call it love.

Love is work.