Black widows

 

I first met her through a mutual acquaintance. We were all going out of town for a weekend of fun, but she kept us waiting three hours so she could go garage sailing.

As time went on her husband accidentally killed himself hanging himself in the bathtub for erotic satisfaction. 

She came to my house to swim in our pool and I watched in shock as she went from blissfully ecstatic to so droopy and down she looked almost dead. She was depressed.

Then she started dating an older man. He had a mild heart condition so she had him take a baby aspirin every day and he was all she lived for. But when he had a stroke and had to have a metal plate put in his head she wanted nothing more to do with him.

Instead she dated another older man and eventually they got married. I never heard her say anything nice about him and when he became bedridden she moaned and groaned about him continually. He finally died.

She moved right on to another man, in his eighties now and she is happy as a lark about their relationship. So far.

But she is not happy. She has never been happy since I've known her. One of her children married a drug dealer and dropped out of medical school to work for him. Eventually this one got her act together and married into a wonderful family down south. But her other daughter filled right in. Unemployed, not interested in raising her boys, wanting her mother to give her the house so she could live in it. And the son? His list of problems is unbelievable, ending right now with him living in her house with her and his entire family. She supports them all, but of course never stops complaining about them.

Over thirty years of continual misery surrounds this woman and she loves nothing better than to share it. She and her best friend are the only two people in the world that I know who focus mostly on the negative side of living and seem to thrive on it when they are together. 

They are always there if someone needs them. As long as it doesn't interfere with their running around and buying things. I think they mistake being needed for love and feel that doing anything in any way is better than not doing something. The trouble is they don't do things with love. They just do them to get them done.

Don't question their methods. Don't disagree with what they say. Take everything they say with a grain of salt. 

And they will still manage to find something negative.