Mysteries abound in this world. They can make life more interesting, or they can actually ruin it.
Why someone appears irrationally angry or upset can make all the difference in the world.
Most of us have something that triggers a so called, gut response, one of those reactions that occurs before we have time to think about it, or adapt it to the situation. Fear is usually at the base of these things, fear for ourselves or those we care about.
Immediate anger can also be a powerful deterrent, a memory maker, a way to teach a lesson someone won't forget too soon. Followed by forgiveness it can be acceptable, but it is often traumatic.
If I know someone very well I can handle almost anything they throw at me. I am adaptable, but while we are still in the getting-to-know-you-stages these things become red lights for me. I once knew someone who accused me of the most irrational things, who often made me feel bad for things I didn't do, and yet in between was the most loving person you can imagine. That person turned out to be a true narcissist and they are terrifying. A narcissist has to be very charming, because in between the charming they can be scary. A charming person is hard to resist.
My favorite way to get to know someone is writing. My best friend and I wrote to each other for over a year before we actually met. By then there were very few unknowns, but not everyone is willing to do that. Especially in this day and age of instant gratification.
I am as guilty as anyone when it comes to wanting what I want now, but I've learned that most things worthwhile will survive time. In fact, talking about mysteries, there are things that appear to survive everything and as rare as they are, they are worth finding.
