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Most of us feel pretty much the same about those we love.

We want to be proud of them.

We want them to be happy with who they are.

We want them to be proud of us.

We don't want to see them suffer.

And we surely don't want to be the cause of their suffering.

Everything else seems to be contingent on one of the above.

In theory we want them to be self sufficient and self supporting.  It makes them stronger and safer.

And we hate to see them with people who hurt them, or make them sad.

That's the real story about love.