Them

Take a perfectly good little person and throw a "them" rock right into its middle.

Watch the circles that emanate out from it:
          Be nice to them..
          Share your toys with them.
          Share your treats with them.
          Treat them the way you want to be treated.

Not a bad thing  -- unless the center starts to disappear.

The center point is real.  It is necessary.  An axle needs to be strong if it is going to carry a whole life.

If the "me" becomes a black hole, giving, giving, giving, depression and passive aggressive behavior appear, without a sense of self worth it all begins to disintegrate. 

A person who loves and values herself knows how others should be treated.  Part of what she gives those she loves is a road map for living.   The "them" is an integral part of the whole, but not the whole reason for being.

As thinking, feeling, being creatures there has to be a sense of self.