Insecurity

Every morning of my life, for the past umpteen million years, I have dressed myself.

During that time I have varied whether or not I will wear make-up and what style of hair I want. I have floated through the fashions of the fifties, sixties and seventies. Now I prefer whatever is comfortable.

I like to wear smiles and bright eyes and usually earrings, but not much else in the jewelry line, just because I don’t like the constriction of anything on my body. Given a more innocent and tolerant world, I would probably wear nothing at all unless I was cold!

The one lesson I would pass on to those younger than me is simply this: Do not wear your insecurity where it shows! There is nothing less attractive than an insecure person. It makes others nervous. Instead of paying attention to you, they will be trying to figure out what is wrong, or if it is your fault, or theirs. Most people cannot conceive of it being no one’s fault at all.

Banishing insecurity is worth whatever it takes. My first suggestion would be educate yourself! The more you know, the less you will worry about what you do not know. My second is to let go of all the rest, because once you’ve done your homework and stepped out, it’s too late to change the past. My last suggestion is pay attention! Not to yourself and how you look, or what others are thinking about you, but to them!

In my experience, most people are thinking about themselves and if they think you are too, the rest is all gravy! Besides you can learn a lot in this world by paying attention.

Insecurity only gets in the way. Leave it at home in your diary and if you must agonize over it, do it in private, or only with your very best friend.