Expecting perfection from anyone, even myself, is unrealistic. Everyone has something good, or bad, that is part of them. We are fallible creatures who are, hopefully, always learning.
It is easier to be nonjudgmental about animals. I expect cats to leap upon anything that moves, or birds to dart away from any surprises. It is part of their nature.
People have natures too. Some of them are quite laudable and some less so.
It would be unrealistic not to expect the con man to always be thinking about the next con, or the thief not to take advantage of something left unguarded, bu that doesn't mean this person isn't able to be loving, or even honest in other situations. Loving such a person requires common sense and looking through eyes that see the truth.
Trying to project my idea of who these people are onto them is counter productive. It might make me feel better, but it is unrealistic. Just because a person is kind, or sweet doesn't negate caution.
Expectations must include their true nature.
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