The times they are a changing

Once every so often society transitions into a new way of being and generally it is a step in the right direction for nearly everyone, But a few people always get lost in the process.

Change takes time. It doesn't happen over night, but if people are isolated or insulated against the world around them they may not even notice until it is so late that they are completely befuddled by the state of their lives.

The last century was one of those times. Women began to take on more and more power and with that power came expectations as well as rights.

The long suffering woman work-a-holic's self image has always been I work myself to the bone, I do every thing a man does even though I am weak and frail. I am lovable because I am pitifully and pathetically hard working and if I get sick I expect even more attention, because I am sick because I worked so hard for you.

This is often not a conscious way of living. It is has been learned from mothers and grandmothers as the only way to survive in a man's world.

Only it is no longer a man's world. Women today, especially young women, are strong, independent, smart people and the successful ones balance work and play just like men can. Being sick may generate compassion, but there are no extra points because you passive aggressively worked yourself into a tither.

Not understanding this and not being able to move into this world can be very painful for women who don't understand why they are working as hard as they can and doing everything they've always done, but people are not responding the same way anymore.