In a hard place

It's difficult to walk the line between fantasy and fiction.  So many parts of our lives are really based on both.

Everyone has dreams and part of the romance in life is pretending these dreams are true, but there are very few saints, or arch villains in our relationships.

We are all just people and that means our inner life, our souls, our intentions, are a cocktail of good and bad, greedy and kind, self serving and philanthropic "stuff."

Sorting it all out probably isn't even possible and it is certainly not possible by the people closest to the need.

That is why we need really good mediators, attorneys and judges who make decisions based on fact, not feelings.  That may not be entirely fair, but it's more fair than the process of guilt and hindsight.

Life is hard.  Contracts need to be honored. A solid basis for the future relies on bedrock decisions before hand. Otherwise the sands just keep shifting back and forth and the same old problems just keep hanging around, disguised as different things. Whoever has the most money soon becomes obsessed with retaining it now their emotional connection has altered.

It's horrible that these very difficult journeys need to be made right when everyone is feeling the most fragile and broken, but that's when they start and it is far too easy to mistake guilt for no rights at all.