Fools rush in

I have a distant relative who was in the middle of a huge crisis last summer.  She had just discovered the love of her life, her husband, a very religious and good man, was both abusive and unfaithful.

Now she is happily married to a new man, a perfect man, a wonderful man!

I find this frightening.

Most marriages end because there are problems and problems are never one sided.  Poor judgement when choosing a spouse, misconceptions of who I am or he or she is, a need to enable, or control, or a million other things, lead to misery.

When something as big as a marriage (a contract most of us think we are going into for life) fails, there are so many things to look into if we don't want to repeat the same things again and again.

So, while I am not saying anything to her, I find it difficult to congratulate her either.  It seems to me she is rushing in and already on shaky ground.