People who need people

Where do otherwise nice people get the idea that it's okay to take advantage of their friends and family?

I don't mind helping someone out.  I'll even go out of my way to do it, but I do expect the person I'm helping to be cognizant of my worth.

Thinking that people do not mind waiting for me is insane.

My sister has a friend who is always late.  People wait on her everywhere, sometimes for hours.  They sacrifice their vacation time waiting for her to show up. They miss doing what they want to do so she can take advantage of them and indulge her every whim.

She thinks of herself as a free spirit.  I think of her as selfish and egotistical. She gives freely of her money and stuff and yet she ignores basic human dignity. If she likes it, or wants it, or has a yen for it, then it must come to pass -- at anyone and everyone's expense.

I'm sure she would be shocked at the people she has alienated through the years. She thinks of herself as a push over, a real people person, but if she really cared about other people she would give them the respect they deserve.

Unreliable and stressful are the two words that come to mind when I think of her.

I don't understand the people who need that.