Relationships

I think the unfortunate thing many women forget, especially after a divorce from someone they thought they were married to for life, is that what they want is important.

I hear them say, "Guys want this or that" and I wonder if they realize that if they are not what a "guy" wants, then he is not the guy for them.  Trying to be someone you are not is generally not sustainable.

I think one of the reasons marriages often falter during the seventh year, if not before, is that you quit playing a part.

Any human being worth his or her salt has to honor their own inner worth to feel good, so if that true self must be covered up, or sublimated, gussied up, or hidden, that person will feel bad.

And bad feelings eventually spread out and take over.

It's understandable to hear young girls look at guys and say, "Ooh, he's hot!  I'm gonna get him!"

Someone ready to become part of a couple -- a long lasting relationship -- needs to think, "I wonder what he's like on the inside?"

Then she needs to look inside herself.

I can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat their mother or father, by the way they respect others, by the way they do their work, and whether or not they are trustworthy.  If any of those things are questionable then they are not ready for a committed relationship.

And that goes both ways. 

It's okay to want to please the other person and make them happy, but the foundation for the entire relationship is based on mutual respect and trust.  Without that you don't have a prayer.