The love of your life

My job, whether I choose to accept it or not, is to be the most whole person I can be.

This idea that people need another person in order to be complete is a problem.  I see mothers already pairing babies up, or asking toddlers who their girl friend is.  It gives the impression that the most important thing in life is to pair off -- after that everything will be perfect.

First of all, the more people involved the more complicated life becomes.  Just glomming onto someone makes you both off balance and awkward.  It takes two committed, mature, hard working individuals to make a relationship really work for both of you.

Secondly, no relationship can be stronger than its weakest link.  If you want to be part of a successful, outstanding couple, you need to be a successful, outstanding person all on your own!

Think of it as a birthday cake.  All the fancy frosting, no matter how talented the icer is, will melt down in a second if there isn't a big, hefty, wonderful cake underneath.

Develop the skills that are unique to you.  Cultivate your hobbies and dearest dreams and when you wake up happy with who you are and your life the way it is, you will find the love of your life.