Friends are a beautiful part of life.
They are there to support us when we are in trouble and join us when we are joyous.
But there is a fine line between friends and enablers and you may not identify it until later in life.
If your friends always pop up to take care of you, paint your house, put together your furniture, fix your plumbing, hem your clothes and loan you money, they may really be enablers.
That's okay until they are not there. If you move, or they die, or they simply go away you are stuck not knowing how to deal with your own life.
A friend would show you how to fix something, or how to hire someone who is reliable to fix it. A friend wants you to be able to survive on your own. A friend teaches you how to use your computer, how to use your phone. They don't just do it for you.
Some women are particularly subject to enablers and then when they are older and slower and on their own, they become lost and depressed. They want someone else to come in and do for them what those friends once did. And they don't understand why that isn't happening.
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