Games people play

 

Games are part of being human. We play all kinds of games as a way of teaching, learning and coping with a world where our actual power is somewhat limited.

In the beginning children simply learn that games have rules; we take turns and we perform certain acts. Later on those games take on strategy in sports and even video games. And eventually we play the games that make society work.

Successful people learn to play to the egos and needs of those around them, complimenting, kowtowing, making sure not to overstep. These games are so common most people don't even know they are playing them. 

Husbands and wives used to play awful games. Some still do where they talk to their friends complaining about how bad they have it. Many people like to act like their job is the worst or most unfair, or their coworkers the most unreliable. Somehow we have taught people that complaining is cool and looking for the worst part of the job is what you do, but I've never found that useful. If I felt that way I would find another job.

But there are games I play and they are too personal to write about here. Games where my emotional well being relies upon me overlooking things that don't fit my imaginary relationships with some people. I like my idols on pedestals, safely surrounded by irrevocable love. The rules for this game are relatively simple. I am a detail oriented, very curious person who loves to sort out mysteries and codes and complex puzzles, but I set all that aside in favor of a fairy tale of my own choosing. 

If anyone had really investigated the witch, they would have discovered that she was just a clever old woman who liked to bake, but if they had done that where would all those stories go to? Instead they saw her in a way that fit what they needed from her. Games like that can work against some people and benefit others, but the most important thing to know is:

They are games people play.