Choices

 

Life is a series of choices, so it stands to reason that those good at making choices will have a better life.

And that means we need to give children a chance to make choices early on and frequently, then allow them to live with the consequences for a while.

Otherwise how can they hope to build confidence in their decision making abilities?

I am sure some people are just born with the ability to consider all the options and make good decisions, but I see so many who don't have these skills as adults, that I wouldn't count on it.

I also believe it is better to feel you have more control over your life than it is to feel you are reliant on someone else taking care of you.  There is nothing wrong with having a little backup around, but that's all it is - a little back up. The power to take care of yourself is a wonderful and important part of being happy.

All that being said, it is also important to know that living with the consequences of your own decisions is part of life. It is one of the ways we learn what to do, what not to do, and why.

There is a sense of power and pride that comes with figuring these things out and it develops a confidence and stability that is absolutely invaluable.