Memories

Our memories define us as the people we used to be and really still are.

The filter of a personality changes the way we both see and remember events in our lives.

Behavior is reinforced by the attention it receives.

If being puny and sick makes us pitiful and gets us lots of attention, those are the kinds of things we remember and look for in everything around us.

If finding fault and talking righteously about it gets us positive attention, then we stick to that.

Children learn very early to cultivate those things that bring them attention because as helpless little creatures we NEED that attention to survive.

But as adults we have the ability to change.  Now we need to live in the real world, a world where Goldilocks is not all sunshine and goodness and the three bears are not very understanding about people who just walk into their house and mess things up.

It is important to remember memories with regard to perception.  Wanting to do good and doing it may be different things, but the reasoning behind them is often closer than many of us might think. 

Translating the memories of childhood into their own reality requires some effort, but sometimes it is truly worthwhile.