The dance of deception

 Crowd control is an art.

I know a woman who had a trolley pick up her thirty best friends for her eightieth birthday party.  It was her idea of the perfect day.

I know another woman who prefers a tête-à-tête.  To her that is the ultimate way to spend an afternoon.

Although I might express an interest in an event I hear about, I will never ask to be included.  I  assume if they know I would like to come and don't invite me, then there is a reason, but what do I do if someone does ask to come too?

There are times when it is necessary to be a bit exclusive, or lose some of the energy you're shooting for.  Not every event works as an open door free for all, so not hurting the feelings of those excluded is important.

Sticking as close as possible to the truth is the most respectful response.  After that comes the dance of deception necessary for those who don't understand or take hints.

Either way it is not necessary to invite someone you weren't planning on.