Good Causes

Building a new life is a rather complicated affair. People trying to help from a distance sometimes just make it harder. What was may not be anymore, but when some people speak, others listen as if it is gospel.

I come from a family of passive aggressive people and I admit that I was once one of the best, but I have worked very hard to change that and I believe I have changed. I jokingly say that I am no longer passive aggressive. Now I am openly aggressive. It is a joke, but it is really only an exaggeration of the truth. If I have a problem, I try to find a way to deal with it head on. I prefer that to trying to second guess people.

I am also aware, though, that people say a lot of things they don't really mean when they are angry and frustrated, so I take the time to separate actions and words from events and emotionally fraught experiences. This is called wisdom.

The more people, the more complicated it becomes, but as long as we all keep working at it with open minds and hearts, it will work.

I just spent a lovely evening at a garden party with my son and his family. It was an elegant affair with extraordinary food and I left feeling so happy and content. This is the kind of affair there should be more of. Good people gathered for a good cause with good conversation.