Depth

 

Everyone has their own ideas about how they want to live.

Depth of character is measured by the truth of those ideas.

If someone truly believes that what they are doing is the right thing, the best thing, then they must hold themselves responsible for the consequences of those beliefs.

To espouse a belief in something and then to complain about the consequences is asking people not to hold you responsible. Those two actions are in direct conflict with each other.

Each of us has the right to live the way we choose, but we do not have the right to expect other people to agree with that, or live with it, nor is it their responsibility to make us feel good it if they do not agree.

People can like us without agreeing with us. Asking them to pretend they do agree with us is neither fair, nor realistic, so sometimes it is just better to avoid those issues we know are in conflict with, in the name of peace.

Wanting everyone to like us and everything we do is a childish dream. As adults we choose what we want to share with those who are important to us and steer clear of those things we know we are in direct conflict with.

 The depth of our character is anchored on our ability to accept our own choices and their consequences.