I feel for young women who were fed the fairy tale that if they were kind, sweet, loving, forgiving, and beautiful, they would be happy. Those qualities are not bad in and of themselves, but they are designed to mostly make someone else, using you, happy.
The idea that the happiest people are those who are married with children is often a myth put out by the church and old women who were trapped early so gave up most of their expectations.
Children are the greatest gift in the world, but unless you can afford to feed them, take them to the doctor and dentist, and send them to a good school dressed reasonably well, they will make you feel awful. Guilt hurts.
Women, just like men, need to find something they love to do that brings in money. That usually involves some kind of training or education. In my generation women were often encouraged to pick an occupation that left them free to care for their husband, but he was encouraged to find something he was good at and loved.
Having a job you enjoy, a salary you can live on, a place to call home that you can afford and a life filled with challenging fun things you enjoy makes you more likely to be happy and happy people migrate towards other happy people..
They get together for mutual caring, mutual enjoyment. Neither one is a sugar daddy or momma. Both are relatively content and emotionally secure adults who like themselves enough to love someone else.
Then, if you want children, you might be ready.
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