And the winner is

I look at Facebook and see people still playing the same old games they have played for eons.

It's the old story of the wife who stands at the fence post parrying back and forth with her neighbor over who has the worst life and husband. Or the husband who does the same at his favorite bar. It's one of those games where the winner loses -- big time.

There is more to marrying someone than having a fancy wedding, or beautiful car and more to picking a life partner than they way they look to you or the world.

When your whole life is a part time job, drinking at the local watering hole and vicariously loving someone else's life on television, you are still basically children  You aren't using your own life experiences to make solid choices. The game just started and you're already on the downhill slope.

Women and men have had a chance to know other things. They have accomplished things that required years of work and planning. They realize that much of their life depends on how they approach it, not what is willy-nilly dished out to them. They have some idea of what they can control and what they can't. In short, they have a broader base to build on.

If everything you needed to know, you learned playing Poker, you are in trouble. At least play Bridge, where you have to learn to play with a partner. But it is over simplified to think people are going to play the same games forever. Human beings have good days and bad ones. Your job, if you choose to be happy, is to pick a partner whose ideals are in sync with your own.

Or, better yet, stop playing games with your future. You don't have to spend your life with someone else, but if you do, consider the fact that you will only spend part of your time playing or in bed with them. It's the rest of the time that's gonna kill you. Choose wisely.