The best

I am attracted to empathetic outgoing, secure people. I suspect everyone is to some extent. They make us feel good and safe and they are generally both interesting and fun to be with.

Go a little bit in either direction and those things begin to fade.

Very insecure people tend to fall into two categories. Those who fade into the shrinking violet wallpaper and those who become obnoxious attention seekers, flirting with everyone in an attempt to appear secure and witty, or becoming bullies afraid to let go of control.

And then come the what? Extraordinary secure people? The ones who just know they are the cat's meow (and that is one prize winning, showcased Persian cat.) These can be so charming! Or they can be tiresome, it really depends on how they think of themselves (or perhaps of me and others.)

Given my upbringing and natural tendencies I know I can easily find myself in the shrinking violet bouquet. I walk a fine line between being unseen, unheard and overly solicitous, or feeling obligated to control everything.

But I am also an actor at heart. Ready to grab the reins and lead the class, all the while knowing that I am really only an impersonator, someone pretending to be confident, beautiful, smart and outgoing.

It's the best I got.