Life-edits

Life is full of surprises. We go along getting smarter and smarter and the smarter we get the less anyone listens because no one likes a smarty pants, or a know it all and most of all no one likes to hear things they don't want to hear.

The ideal world that lives inside our heads betrays us over and over. Happily ever after predisposes an ability to change -- to evolve, because people change, seasons change and the world changes too. If we don't find a way to reconcile those life-edits with reality, things are going to be hard.

There are lots of phrases people use to try and get through those hard times: when one door closes another opens, when God closes a door He opens a window, sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together, how lucky I am to have something that makes saying good-bye so hard.

We hear these things at all the wrong times -- the times we don't want anything to change, or any glad thoughts to make the darkness less murky, because, like little children, we have this feeling we can hide from our sorrow if we stay in the dark.

It might be better to leave the light on until we find our sorrow and can rescue it from that awful darkness. Pick it up, carry it around, and look into its eyes until we find ourselves sitting there sharing remembrances, resurrecting the good times.

And that is when the magic happens.  Love attracts love and so one day you buy a cake, light some candles and celebrate the gift of loving and being loved on top of a rich layer of memories.