Water under the bridge

The nineteen eighties and nineties were the age of blaming.  Counselors were rabidly after everyone and anyone who might take the edge off their client's problems.  It seemed right at the time.

Distance yourself from family members who may have caused you pain.  Confront those whose behavior made your life miserable.  Seek healing in the form of righteous revenge. 

Right, wrong, or simply desperate, I don't think it really solved many problems.

By the time it happened it was water so far under the bridge that even stopping it was probably a moot point because many of the perpetrators were too old to still be actively abusing their victims.  It did bring things into an awareness, which may have given future abusers pause for thought, but I don't think most of these people think about consequences much anyway.  They just act.

In the end, most people don't need revenge, they need healing.  They need to find a way into the light so they can move onward and upward.  Understanding why someone would do the horrible things people do to each other is simply asking why bad things happen to good people.

It seems to make more sense to make sure good things happen in the future.  There will always be crazies, but maybe there will be fewer of them if the next generation is raised in light and love.