Respect

I hear people making excuses for doing whatever it is they want to do and it always annoys me a little.

It is a by-product of that old martyr syndrome that runs deep in my family.  It is enough to want to take a vacation, or buy whatever it is I want as long as there is enough money and time and the pros and cons are weighed ahead of time.

There is no need to convince others that I “deserve” it.  That always sounds more like a plea for pity than anything else to me.  Pitiful people are annoying.

Whether I really deserve something or not is often irrelevant.  If I am going to go ahead and just do it, or simply take it, or go out and get it-- that matters!  And that is a decision I should make before declaring it to anyone else.

Guilt is an inherited weakness that doesn’t do much to change anything.  It is a by-product of poor decision making in the first place.

Learning to think before I act eliminates a lot of the willy wallying that comes afterwards. 

I love it when someone is straightforward and positive and in control.  I may not agree with them, but I respect them and that goes a long way towards developing good relationships.