Thursday, August 16, 2012

The sun, the moon and all the stars


What makes bullying rewarding?

We approach bullies by trying to get them to empathize with their victims, but I don’t think that seems to work very well.

Nothing is more frightening than seeing our own insecurities manifested.   Our basest impulses are to destroy weakness before it can somehow contaminate or hurt us. 

Perhaps a better way to approach bullying is to teach who and what a bully is instead of what he shouldn’t do.  Rather than glorifying cutting wit and surreptitious actions as the domain of the uber intelligent, it might make more sense to show it for the insecure and limited response that it is.

Bullies are the epitome of narcissists.  Focusing on their victims is like trying to teach milk to shape itself into a glass, hopelessly impossible.  They need to see that their actions define them as something less than stellar individuals. 

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