What is your biggest regret?
I saw a small video where they asked people that and it made me think.
Regrets are funny things, because they really don't do much good other than taking up space that better things might occupy. Still, I suppose knowing one person's regret might help another person decide to do something differently when they have a choice to make.
I think my biggest regret might be not becoming an independent single human being with a life of my own before choosing to settle down with another person.
No matter how wonderful a relationship is, it changes the way I do things, the way I act upon things, the way I think about things.
Maybe other people are different, but I tend to lose myself in relationships and the more I love, the more I am wanting and willing to give up. That is not a bad thing at all, but I believe it is better done when one really knows what she is giving up.
Watching some young people now I realize it is not necessary to give up yourself in order to have all those things I had and wanted. If I had known then what I know now I could have had both. It would have been different, but it would not have been exclusive.
The panic with which our generation found themselves diving into relationships might have come through our parents who grew up during depressions and world wars, or perhaps it was only a local tradition, but only one person counseled me to wait and I didn't believe her. She was my future mother-in-law and I thought she was so old she had simply forgotten what it was like to be young.
I don't think she ever forgot. I wish I had understood that then. I wish I had had less ego and more independence, but better late than never. My life is so rich and full now and perhaps it wouldn't have been this way now if I had done things differently in the beginning.
I saw a small video where they asked people that and it made me think.
Regrets are funny things, because they really don't do much good other than taking up space that better things might occupy. Still, I suppose knowing one person's regret might help another person decide to do something differently when they have a choice to make.
I think my biggest regret might be not becoming an independent single human being with a life of my own before choosing to settle down with another person.
No matter how wonderful a relationship is, it changes the way I do things, the way I act upon things, the way I think about things.
Maybe other people are different, but I tend to lose myself in relationships and the more I love, the more I am wanting and willing to give up. That is not a bad thing at all, but I believe it is better done when one really knows what she is giving up.
Watching some young people now I realize it is not necessary to give up yourself in order to have all those things I had and wanted. If I had known then what I know now I could have had both. It would have been different, but it would not have been exclusive.
The panic with which our generation found themselves diving into relationships might have come through our parents who grew up during depressions and world wars, or perhaps it was only a local tradition, but only one person counseled me to wait and I didn't believe her. She was my future mother-in-law and I thought she was so old she had simply forgotten what it was like to be young.
I don't think she ever forgot. I wish I had understood that then. I wish I had had less ego and more independence, but better late than never. My life is so rich and full now and perhaps it wouldn't have been this way now if I had done things differently in the beginning.
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