Deserving

 

I have three children. One is well educated, almost affluent with lovely children in a home he bought and renovated. One was in special ed all through school, has worked grueling minimum wage jobs most of her life, has two lovely grown children, a fantastic husband and is living an almost fairy tale existence at this moment. The last one calls me almost daily because he knows I love it. He goes above and beyond for anyone who is in his life, especially his friends and he has lots of them. He works hard for more than minimum wage, but not a lot more, lives in a shared house, drives a truck that is in constant need of attention and is in the end of a divorce. That part of a divorce where you divide up the assets.

He married a woman seven years older than him and they were together for over 25 years. They have one lovely child who is almost grown. Every day he got up, warmed up the bathroom, put her robe in the dryer to heat it up and took her a mocha latte with caramel drizzle and whipped cream to wake her up. He did the grocery shopping on his way home from work. He home schooled their son and walked, or ran their dogs. He maintained the house, the yard, and the cars. He vacuumed, dust mopped, cooked dinner, did the dishes, and often did the laundry. He made every celebration something extra special and when she tired of him he awoke one morning to find himself being escorted out of his home with a restraining order saying all sorts of untrue things.

Now he and his son are closer than ever. He is allowed to have friends that are not his wife's. He has an active social life and her friends have shunned her for him, but every penny he makes is spoken for. He is the one I bought gifts for this year and I don't think there is a soul in this world, including his siblings, who wouldn't think that was the right thing to do.

Except maybe his ex-wife.