There are people in this world who are good. Extraordinarily good, kind, caring people. They are not perfect, but they do things for the right reasons.
I don't know why they are this way. I used to think it was nurture, but I am beginning to believe it is nature, because they come from the same families that less kind people do.
These people think about what they are doing. They don't just react and if it feels good to them, continue. A lot of people do that. They mistake feeling good for helping others, when they are not really doing that at all. They believe that if it feels right, it must be right.
Unfortunately, many things that might feel good, or right, in the moment, are only enabling. Their long term results can be tragic. Passed down from generation to generation like sacred cows, they create untold misery for children grandchildren, great grandchildren. All in the name of goodness (nee: feeling good.)
The flip side of these people are the extraordinary ones. Their lives are not necessarily any easier, but the gifts they give, freely and without strings, have a lasting influence. The quiet, good natured, common sense and intelligent responses they pass on are the stuff of everything good in the world.
We are not in this world to create drama. Histrionic, pitiful, poor me, passive aggressive, manipulative, enabling people often think they are very good and they may mean well, but it doesn't change how damaging they are.
Our role models walk softly and respond carefully.
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