Instant family

I just watched the film, Instant Family about becoming foster parents and adopting.

What a movie.

It was my story and not my story all at the same time.

I wish we had had the support group they had, but we didn't. Once we decided to foster and were approved, boom, we were the experts.

Except we weren't of course.

In the movie this couple had such a close relationship and it carried through the fostering and adopting. Ours did not. Oh we stayed together, but the marriage was over long before it ended..

Maybe it was over before we started.

I thought we loved each other so much that we had love to share. Looking back I don't think he was in the same place. I think it's possible he wanted to be in that place though.

We experienced so many of the same events they did in this movie during our years of fostering and then adopting, it was eye opening to see these were normal.

Part of it is the number of children, because every human being is different and has different needs and children come with personalities, quirks and gifts that make each one a world unto its own.

I doubt if raising kids is ever easy, but I know that when you add three children in three years spanning seven years in age, it is gonna be one wild romp.

Looking back, I feel blessed, but I didn't always feel that way while doing it.