The eye of the beholder

I wonder how often a perceived misdeed is only in the eyes of the one hurt?

Someone posts a picture of themselves on social media and another person prints it and posts it at work.

There is only the picture there on the kitchen bulletin board. No one writes anything on it.

A "friend" of the person sees it and immediately tells the one whose picture is now there for all to see.  She is irate! How dare anyone post such an awful picture of her friend! Look how fat she looks in that picture -- and now the one who is in the picture becomes irate.

They talk to everyone and discuss how awful it was for someone to sneak in and post a picture that made them look fat. They consider it work place harassment. The picture once considered wonderful on the Internet is now almost a case for the court!

And the only difference was the "friend" who perceived it that way when she saw it.

I wonder if it had been a picture of an adorable baby from the same site if there could have been such a ruckus? But no matter, now the person who posted it on her site feels abused because her friends saw it as a bad thing.

Of course, in reality it was a  matter of questionable taste in the first place. If the wronged person really believed she looked so beautiful why should she be upset now -- except that she really didn't look very appropriate in the beginning and deep down inside her, she knows it -- and so did the "friend" who turned the whole thing into an enormous ordeal.

It's the "friend" who upsets me.