Sustainable relationships

People say so many things they don't mean.  It seems like a kindness until reality strikes.  Then it's a shock.

Experience teaches me that the truth is always better -- right from the start.  If that isn't possible, then the sooner the better.

It doesn't mean I don't put my best foot forward.  I might learn something by doing that, but I just can't wear anyone else's shoes and expect them to fit.

Trying to be something I am not becomes trying after a while, impossible in the long run.  That's why marriages fail after seven years and long time friends eventually fall out.

Truly sustainable relationships are built on love, not infatuation, or dreams, or desire, or any perishable sort of illusion. Vows of steel cannot create something from material that isn't there.

The eternal spark uniting souls for all eternity is cloaked by lots of fluff just waiting to be ignited, but I think the safety net around it is rarely breached.  Most of the time relationships come and go like food in a refrigerator.  There is an expiration date.  I just don't know what it is and that is probably a good thing.  It means hope springs eternal even if nothing else does.

But when two people do discover each others inner core, it is amazing.  They think each others thoughts, dream each others dreams, feel each others feelings.  Life becomes symbiotic.  It feels like magic, but it is simple love, the kind that spans all time.