Pleasing you

 

How do I write about values?

Once upon a time values meant keeping up appearances for the people around me. Following traditional ideas of who and what makes a person acceptable and good, or admirable.

Now I know I can't please all of the people. Ever! In fact, I probably can't please most of the people completely. Ever! So I need to have some realistic priorities, some idea of who I need to please and that turns out to be me.

Everyone else comes and goes at will. There are no guarantees in this life except that I will be with me till the day I die. I have to come to terms with what is most important to me. What I need to be okay with myself.

I try to be kind, but I need to be real too. There are some things I cannot live with and others that I cannot live without. Those may all change over time too.

In the end I realize that forgiveness is a gift that is often misunderstood and under rated. It is also a very difficult state to reach sometimes, but it is not impossible.

The longer I live, the more likely it is that I will do things I will later regret in some way. That is okay. It is being human, but regret cannot become a great wall that sets the limits for the rest of my life.

It's better if it can become a learning experience that ultimately enriches what is now, because now is where I always have to live.